A New Chapter, or Rather Quest, Begins…Again.
Character. Intelligence. Strength. Style. This is the makeup of a true gentleman.
Today is January 5th, 2018 and I am sitting here writing the first blog of the new website after completely deleting all the old blogs from my site and giving it a new face lift and a new focus…but that is not where I want to start.
It starts a little over 3 years ago. I was at the top of my game in my career. I was accomplished, successful, and passionate. Even more so, I was proud of my accomplishment and the hard work that went into achieving my goal. I had lost a lot of weight, looked healthy, was in amazing shape, and I was training and helping others do the same. More than that, I loved fashion and style. I loved the way I looked in nice clothing, so when I wasn’t at the gym or with clients, I was working on my appearance, mostly because I felt confident in nice clothing.
I was at the top of my game…until I wasn’t.
To be honest, I am not exactly sure when it happened, but things began to change. I started to revert back to old habits. I started reintroducing foods that I had once abandoned back into my diet. Over time, I would introduce more, and more, and eventually, I found myself no longer eating a vegan diet, but consuming a lot of meat, a lot of dairy, and a lot of sugars.
Sure, I can blame my relationship at the time, or the changes in my life. I can honestly make all the excuses in the world, but a gentleman owns his mistakes, and the fact of the matter is, I allowed myself to make these changes and the consequences that came along with them. Sure, it was a great time, I enjoyed a lot of great food, beer, and sugary goodness, but I was slowly losing the person that I was and the process was gradual, so I didn’t realize how bad it was becoming until I could no longer see that person and had become a former version of my past. I was overweight, unhappy, and no longer confident. I abandoned my love for good fashion for clothing that was comfortable. I stopped eating healthy and even neglected the gym more often than not. My life and my health was falling apart.
The moment that my relationship failed, I was devastated. I tried not to share and show it, but I was playing for keeps, and my world just got turned upside down. I didn’t really know how to deal with it, so I just got lost in my job and my work. Looking back, I can see why it all failed, but hindsight, as they say, is always 20/20. I just wasn’t the same person she first met. I had changed, and not for the better. Moving forward with my life, I know that I cannot continue being that same person. I was miserable.
Shortly after the holidays, I hit my mental and physical breaking point. I couldn’t keep going the same way I was, or I was never going to be happy. I wanted to change. I had to change, and so the transformation process was under way.
A gentleman knows that the ability and the power to change resides within himself.
I knew that in order for myself to see true change, I had to remember where I used to be, not to dwell on how far I have fallen, but to remember how it can all be again. Only, I wanted it to be better, and I knew that in order for that to happen, it has to start with my mindset. I had to change the way I perceived and thought about things. I had to let go of the things I could not change and to move forward with my life in a positive way. I had to become a better man than I was previously before, and I had to strive to constantly be better than the day before…and this began my quest to become a better gentleman.
Why a Gentleman? A Gentleman is the very persona and ideology that I feel best represents my goal as a man. A gentleman respects his body and what he puts into it. He encompasses great character and treats those around him with respect, compassion, and is polite and courteous, even when he doesn’t have to be. He dresses well, not to impress others, but to feel confident and to show that how he presents himself to the world is important to him. He is intelligent as well as strong…mentally, emotionally, and physically.
In a world where manners and chivalry is rare, or where kindness, compassion, and understanding are relatively a foreign concept, I want to break the cycle. This is my quest to become a better man, and this site is going to be the avenue in which I share that quest with other men (and women) with tips, ideas, and etiquette on being a better man and a true gentleman.
Let the journey begin…